Are you brave enough to take this challenge?

Recently my face has been plastered across various social media outlets & even the local news (huge shoutout to NBC Connecticut btw - I say this OOZING with sarcasm) for being an ‘unfit parent’. Not going to get into the details of it seeing that 860, 203 & even some parts of NY has already given their opinion (really means slandered, exploited, ridiculed, name it, I got it) on the matter in my absence (aka wasn’t tweeting, posting on Instagram or Facebook).

Any who, during this devastating & traumatizing defamation of my character (DEFINITION - any intentional false communication, either written or spoken, that harms a person’s reputation; decreases the respect, regard, or confidence in which a person is held; or induces disparaging, hostile, or disagreeable opinions or feelings against a person.) I literally went through every emotion from shame to suicidal because the things that were being said would make a grown man cry. By the grace of God, trauma therapy, lots of prayer & my daughter as my strength I somehow managed to wake up each day still thankful to see a new light.

I’ve had plenty of time to thoroughly think things through. Whoever said, “sticks & stones my break your bones but words may never hurt me” lied their a** off. It hurts when it comes from the people you’ve held so close to you, it hurts hearing it from the people you’ve been nothing but good too, it hurts coming from people who don’t even know you but have created such a vile opinion of hurts. I’ve also thought about the times I was on the giving end of the slander, passing out harsh words and rude statements to the person in the hot seat at the moment faster that females rushing through club doors at 10:59pm to get in free before midnight. One thing about those tables, is that they keep on turning.

One statement I made in particular, shook that same table. I still stand by this exact statement, “EVERYBODY does stupid sh*t, not everyone gets caught doing it.” Point blank period. Unfortunately, my stupid mistake was made open to the public.

Now let’s get to the reason why we are here today:

I am starting a challenge. Not quite sure how many people will step up to it. Not sure how many people will actually take time to read this. Nonetheless, I’m still going to give it a try.


My challenge to you, the reader is to: 1.) share this post amongst your peers
2.) admit to one thing that you’ve shamefully done
3.) challenge your peers
4.) give positive words of encouragement rather than words of judgement

The purpose of this? N O B O D Y is perfect. Even Jesus Himself couldn’t please everyone. The beauty of mistakes is the lesson you learn from it. Doesn’t matter how many times you fall, what counts is your ability to pick yourself up afterwards. We live in a society where people belittle one another to make themselves feel good. Point out another persons flaws to cover your own. Find happiness in another persons misfortune. Quickly forget all the good a person has done soon as they do something bad. I’m not ashamed to admit that I’ve too done this in one way or another. You never know what an individual is going through. You never know what demons one may be facing. Bullying, suicide, retaliation..these things can be avoided if we learn to embrace rather than shun.

With that being said, you have 24 hours. Good luck.


This is dedicated to my daughter, who no matter what tells me loves me every single day & that to her I’m still the best mommy ever. Love you Mooda💜

If you regret some of the decisions you made in the past,
don’t be so hard on yourself.
At that time, you did your best with the knowledge that you had.
At that time, you did your best with the experience that you had.
Some of your decisions might have been coping skills and a time when you didn’t know what you know today.
If you were to make those decisions with the wisdom you have now, you would choose differently.
So give yourself a break and forgive yourself.
Time and experience has a wonderful way
to make us realize that we prosper,
grow and learn to make better choices today,
for ourselves and those we care for.
Brigitte Nicole (via liquid-diamonds-flowing)

I have a habit only of wanting to see the best in people & assuming that everyone is emotionally capable of reaching their highest potential.

I have fallen in love with potential of a person rather than with the actual person them self…& that right there is my biggest problem

Expectations lead to disappointment, not everything has the potential to be what I want it to be & thats something I need to learn to accept

I have been a victim of my own optimism. Many times.